A Gentle Giant: Remembering My Father-In-Law

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I was intimidated by him the first time we met.    I was confident enough, but I could see my future father-in-law  wasn’t going to go that easy on me.  Lots of questions.  “Do you consider the wine during Communion to be the blood of Christ?”  He had a way of getting straight to the point.  However, no matter the question, I felt honored to be in his presence. I could see the love for his son and family.  He was making sure of things.  I understood and appreciated that.

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When he smiled at you,  you felt his love.  My eldest daughter, Haleigh,  took this picture of him when she was was a toddler.   It’s not the most flattering picture of Richard, but I love it because his smile is filled with love for Haleigh.

It’s how he looked at his wife Lois for over 60 years.

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Lois and Richard

They shared a life of love, patience and understanding.  Truly inspiring.

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Together, they raised six children.

The Finucane clan.  They kind of like each other.

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No hams here.

The Finucane grandchildren.   They kind of like each other, too.

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A few hams…

Richard was always there to meet his new grandchildren.  Here he is at the hospital meeting our second daughter, Zoë.

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Who’s the big guy?

I think they were sizing each other up right from the beginning.  Naturally.

Zoë felt right at home.  They were alike, those two.

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She was never intimidated by her grandfather and he  found her delightful.

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A few years later, when our third child, Henry Richard (Hank),  was born, Richard was there to meet him.


Zoë and her grandfather seem to be having a good conversation in the background.

They had many more.

Zoë  reached out to her grandfather in his last days, with a drawing.  He looked at it for awhile, closely.  He didn’t say anything, but he smiled.

Richard’s youngest grandchild, Henry Richard (the second), slept angelically throughout the funeral service.  Richard would have smiled at Henry, too.

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Richard will rest in this memorial garden at the church he so faithfully attended over the years.

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He was a tremendous husband, father, grandfather, father-in-law and disciple of Christ.  I know you are smiling down upon all of us now.  Especially Lois.

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We will miss you.  You will be a part of our lives always.  We honor your memory by reaching out to those in need.

Just like you did.

“May the road rise up to meet you. May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face; the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.”

richardonrollerskates.JPGRest in peace, Richard Daniel Finucane.

December 24, 1926- June 14, 2013

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